Let’s be honest- you see grey hair, you instantly think old, right? I started going grey when I was 18 years old, and many people wonder WHY I won’t dye over them. For a while, I planned on covering those beautiful grey hairs, but you know what? After a while, I started to embrace them. Not only did I start to accept them, they slowly have become part of who I am. Which I suppose is quite apparent now, because I named my whole brand after them! So if you are going grey, OR if there is anything about your self that is not so “normal”, keep reading. I want to talk about all of those insecurities and why it is SO okay with being just a little bit different than everyone else.
#1: Natural grey hair makes you unique
Of course, when I started going grey it wasn’t AS noticeable as it is now, but it was still the topic of conversation. That alone made it really difficult because I never knew what to say to people when they asked, “Is your hair grey? Are they real??”
“Yes, yes they are” – me
Now they are very much a part of my overall hair color, so I always get the question that dumbfounds me. “Does your hair dresser do that on purpose?”
“No, I don’t think that’s possible one strand at a time”. – me
That being said, I either had to embrace this new thing, or decide to cover it up. Let me just preface this by saying, I think it’s amazing no matter what you choose to do! If you dye your hair because you don’t want to look older, or keep them and rock it, that’s awesome too.
I made the choice to never dye my grey hairs, and I know one day I will have to make the decision to go fully grey… Which is kinda overwhelming to think about, BUT I know that choosing this route has really put things into perspective for me. I learned that the hard part wasn’t my grey hair, or the fact that I was really young. It was hard because it was different. It is so culturally normal to cover and change things that make us look older, so much so, that it’s hardly seen anymore in the younger generation.
I feel this so much more when it comes to the social media world and constantly comparing to the beautiful bombshells out there with the super shiny hair. To be honest, some days I long for my shiny black hair back. I sometimes HATE taming my super grey wirey hairs when they don’t want to stay put, but making the decision to keep them, wasn’t just for me. It was for all of you out there that have something that makes you different. It’s for the girl that doesn’t feel confident in her body, her skin, her abilities, ANYTHING.
#2: “Flaws” aren’t actually bad
Now I know you must be thinking that I must be crazy for hearing my grey hair talk to me this much. HA. In all reality though, this “flaw” that makes me feel different, also makes me unique. I know all of you have heard that what makes you different makes you beautiful and blah blah blah. Really think about it though. We all aren’t cut from the same mold and certain life experiences make us who we are. For example, a lot of stress and hardships in my life really catapulted my hair to turning grey. This was definitely hard, but is a constant reminder that I survived, got through it, and now can find the Silver Lining (pun intended).
While you are reading this, think about the things in your life that make you different because of a circumstance. It doesn’t have to be physically, but maybe emotionally or mentally. Whatever you are thinking about right now, is the reason you are who you are. Maybe these circumstances you are thinking of are hard and you don’t even like to think about them. Me too. But I truly believe that there is and always will be a Silver Lining in those events.
#3: You change because of the pressure around you
Okay, so now that I’ve got that out there. You are probably thinking about that one thing you are wanting to change about yourself.
This is what I want.
I want you to really think about why you want to change that, WHY you want to dye those hairs. Is it for you? OR is it for everyone else around you? I think we all can agree that most of the things that we do are for the approval or satisfaction of the people in our lives. That’s a WHOLE other topic, I know it is, but it still rings true for this topic.
Honestly, I was just thinking the other day about how I wanted to dye my hair again. I really thought about it though and said to myself. “Why would I change the thing about myself that I want to use to speak to others? Why would I cover up what I think is my flaw because I would be “prettier” without them?”
On a completely lighter note, who wouldn’t want to look like Meryl Streep? I mean, her in The Devil Wears Prada is enough for me to keep these babies.
So that’s it! That’s why I keep my grey hair, and why I think you should too. Apart from the deeper meaning behind this topic… I think grey hair is beautiful and shows such a unique side to women. It shows wisdom, and class in a way that an outfit can’t. I really believe that. So if you are getting older and going grey, or are like me and went grey young. I challenge you to embrace it!
If there is something else in your life that is holding you back, sit down and think about why it is holding you back. Comment below with what your Silver Lining is.
Never Forget, Every Story has a Silver Lining