Have you been thinking about home schooling your kids? As a pure bred home schooler I am here to share with you the ins, outs and what it is like to be a home schooler. Well, it’s definitely NOT what everyone says. Let’s clear things up. I DO have social skills, I KNOW how to talk to other people, I DON’T just own overalls and turtlenecks, AND I don’t think I’ve ever worn my hair in braids. Though these things AREN’T bad, these stereotypes are just not true! Maybe you are thinking about the first scene from Mean Girls with the three home schoolers talking about killing off the dinosaurs…I do love dinosaurs but I don’t think God killed them off on the third day.
The movies and TV don’t paint a pretty picture of home schooling and somehow this idea that if your kids don’t go to school, they only have cats as their friends and only come outside for 20 minutes of oxygen in a day. WELL we can all go ahead and throw all of this out the window (except for the cat thing), and start fresh. If you are debating on whether or not to home school your kids. Keep reading.
Pros of being a home schooler:
I was home schooled my entire life, before college that is. Of course my parents chose to home school my sister and I when we were really young. Once we got to a certain age, we were allowed to choose. For awhile I toyed with the idea of going to public school, but it didn’t take long for me to realize that I LIKED staying at home. I didn’t have to wake up super early, wear a cute outfit every day, and deal with the DUHRAMA (pronounced Duh-rama) of school.
Sure, I know if I went I would have some really good times, but honestly… Not for me. You must be thinking that I must have had SOME extravagant home life to stay there all day, but honestly, it was all really normal. Of course my mom and dad are the best, but staying home had a certain cozy feeling. Like literally cozy, pajamas all day… Ammiright?
I have to disclose that my home school upbringing was not the norm. We didn’t attend many home schooling groups. There also wasn’t a lot home schooled kids in my life. My mom was always really trusting of me with my work, and focused on the important parts about learning. If I wanted to bust my butt and get done with my school work early, then I would be done early. If I wanted to try and have summer vacation sooner, then I would get my stuff done and do it! I would do the assignments, have “PE” (running or biking outside) and read my mom the assignments I needed to. Sometimes my dad would help me with math or biology, but overall. I learned what I needed to.
Why I preferred to stay home:
Overall, my home schooling experience was the best. Why? Because my parents did it right. Don’t get me wrong, everyone has their own way of raising their kids, but I think sheltering your children to things of this world is not a good thing. Because once they get out there, and get into really extreme social settings, they are SHOCKED. I even had some of those times when I was out of school myself, and it was hard. It’s hard to adjust, but thankfully my parents raised me with great social skills and knowledge of what this world brings.
I didn’t learn health education from a book, I learned it from my mom. I didn’t learn about alcohol or drugs from influences, I was taught and told what it was like to be around that. This 100% made me who I am today. I have never had trouble saying no to the things that everyone was doing, and I had a healthy understanding of what that scene was. It wasn’t for me, and “Just say no” isn’t a thing that should be laughed at, it should be learned and understood.
Don’t be afraid to do things different:
My parents always allowed me to go to dances, football games, and even random lunches with my friends at their school. I was very involved in my youth group and in music, and also the jewelry making business I had growing up. They always had me make time for my friends, hobbies and activities, because it is important. It is important to be aware of all the different people and places in this world. Parents also have to know that not everything can be fixed behind the walls of a home. I believe that the bad stigma around home schooling is the fact that many people have met kids that were very sheltered growing up. They didn’t understand proper social skills, which wasn’t their fault. I can’t tell you how many times I get people who say, “wait, you were home schooled? But you are so…normal”.
This is NOT a dis on those that were home schooled, I mean, I was! But I kid you not, I think I’ve been told that every single time, I say where I went to school. To this day! And I’m 25! So all in all, If you are debating on whether to home school your kids, know it will be hard, but I think very rewarding. Just prepare to be honest, open, and vulnerable to your kids.
Cons of being a home schooler:
The one downfall of home schooling, is probably the thing that everyone thinks of first! Social awareness. Again, I was fortunate because I was very involved in my youth group and with my friends that went to public school. BUT many home schoolers aren’t because it is hard to fit it in their school schedule. My schedule was very open, which could be seen as good, and bad. Maybe I didn’t take school as seriously as I should have, but that was no ones fault but my own.
To be socially aware of the people around you, and what happens in the world is just so important. I mean I think we can all agree on that… I find that it is so easy for many kids to stay in their home bubble, and be almost scared of other people. TBH I still find that happening to me today, which is kinda hard to admit. Being in large groups of people make me a little nervous. Not as much as they used too, but it’s always in the back of my mind. I am VERY extroverted which I know helps, but I’m sure some of this stems not being around lots of kids at once. Of course this all applies to people differently. Everyone handles situations in their way, but the way kids are conditioned obviously changes who they are.
The downfalls in own life:
Another reason why being a home schooler was a little more difficult only came to fruition towards the end of my schooling. When I got to college I realized I didn’t know how to do a lot of things that came so naturally to everyone. These things being, going to class at a specific time, having home work (I mean my life was homework). Also, knowing basic formats for writing assignments. Honestly though, this only took a few months to get used to and it wasn’t a huge problem!
One of the biggest things I loved about working from home was that I was allowed to use my creativity all the time. I learned that I wasn’t as book smart as I wished I was, but was way the left side of my brain. That is why I got to where I am today with fashion and my blog. I was shown that it was okay to be different and to pursue unique things. This support comes from my parents, and I’m so fortunate because of that.
Obviously do what’s best for you and your kids. Make sure you do research on both fronts, but also don’t care about all the opinions of others! Know that what you are doing is best for you and your kids. Home shcooling is so rewarding because you can be with your kids all the time. You can get to know them in a different way as well. Also try to get your kids plugged in with activities and hobbies! Know that it is a big full time job, unless you hire a tutor. I don’t know a lot about tutoring but I’m sure it’s a viable option.
If you do home school your kids, keep them informed and talk to them about everything. Don’t leave anything out or assume they already know what you are talking about. Also don’t think they will learn it from friends or google (seriously, don’t let your kids learn about life lessons from google PLEASE). Don’t shelter them too much, but just enough to teach them good ideals. Maybe keep them home for awhile and then have them choose (girl shrugging emoji)? That aspect always helped me feel trusted and safe.
Comment below with any questions you might have when it comes to this. Because obviously, I’m a pure bred.